2021年4月9日星期五

如何保持好心情?How to have good mood?

对人谦卑/虚心学习、珍惜美好的事物、看美的风景或东西、听好听的歌、享用美食、感谢对你好的人、祝福对你不好的人,为他们祷告、仰望神、把所有的荣耀归给神、对神表示感恩、凡事往好的方面想、拒绝消极的思想。

How to maintain a good mood?

Being humble when learning anything or dealing with people, cherish beautiful things, see beautiful scenery or things, listen to nice songs, enjoy nutritious food, thank people who are kind to you, bless those who treat you bad, pray for them, look to God, give all the glory to God, express gratitude to God, think about the good aspect in everything, and reject negative thoughts.


2021年4月7日星期三

Get rid of Tiredness 消除疲劳

When we press the position (as attached below) of our body we will feel relax, fresh, can sleep well, no more tired, help in concentration and prevent dementia or Alzheimer.

It can also heal headache, drowsy, sore throat, constipation, sinus, women illness, regulate nervous system and help in detoxification and blood circulation. Pressing the top of our head as attached can make us clever and energetic. This position of our body is important to elderly too because it can eliminate tiredness.

This is called accupressure. We can press the part of our body for 5 minutes or 10 minutes, twice per day.




2021年3月21日星期日

寻找快乐的方法 Become Happy

 人必须懂得怎样自我对话。做人要开心有几个条件:

1)知足/惜福/数算恩典/感谢神(知足常乐)

2)帮助别人(助人为快乐之本)

3)爱/肯定/鼓励自己(对自己好一点)

4)原谅别人(放过自己/不要和自己过不去)

5)爱人/神如己

6)不要和别人作比较

7)学习忘记不愉快的事,把它放下

8)减少欲望,降低不适当的要求(人到无求品自高)

第三样是最难做到的,很多人都不懂得怎样爱自己,可能是因为受过创伤,所以要学会原谅。第五样更难,因为大多数人都是自私的,只爱自己的孩子和与自己有关的东西而已。

只有能够爱看得到的弟兄姐妹,才能爱看不到的神。关于第六、每个人的家庭背景、生活环境、教育程度、文化、健康情况、财务状况都不一样,和别人比较不只对别人不公平,对自己也不公平。

2021年3月7日星期日

自怜与自省 Self-pity & Self-examination

我们每个人都经历过受伤,或是不如意的事,所以,我们每一个人都会有自怜的倾向。当然在有些情况里,自怜似乎很合理,比如一个人在极其痛苦时,难免会自怜。而如果叫一个正在受苦的人不要自怜,也似乎很残忍。并且自怜不是只有不属灵的人才会陷入的,就连很蒙恩爱主的人,也可能会掉入自怜。比如圣经里的耶利米先知和约伯,他们都爱主,却经过极大的苦难因而产生自怜。但我们看神如何向人的自怜回应。让我们一起来读下面的经文:《耶15:15-19》耶和华啊!你知道这一切;求你记念我,看顾我,替我向那些逼迫我的人报复。求你忍怒,不要取去我的性命;要知道,我为你的缘故受了侮辱。我一得到你的话,就把它们吃了;你的话成了我心中的欢喜快乐;耶和华万军的神啊!因为我是称为你名下的人。我没有坐在欢笑者的集会中一同欢乐;因为你的手在我身上,你使我满了忿怒,我就独自静坐。我的痛苦为什么长久不止呢?我的创伤为什么无法医治,不得痊愈呢?你对我真的像叫人失望、靠不住的溪流吗?耶和华这样说:“如果你回转,我必让你回来,你就可以侍立在我面前。如果你说宝贵的话,不说无价值的话,就必作我的口。他们要归向你,你却不要归向他们。”各位,会不会觉得神的反应很难理解?因为我们知道,耶利米的确是为了神的缘故被百姓抵挡,也受了很多苦。但当他向神投诉时,神不但没有安慰他,反而还要叫他悔改。其实我们读约伯的故事时,上帝也同样叫那无故受苦而埋怨的约伯要悔改。为什么这样呢?

1、自怜是神不喜悦的。

       1)自怜是以“自我”为中心,而非以“神”为中心。

人堕落后都成了自私,而自怜就是以“自我”为中心的其中一个反应了。无论因着何事,当“自我”成为中心点时,上帝便不是我们生命的中心了。因此,严格地说,自怜其实也是一种罪。因为在神之上,我们还摆着很多其它的东西。

2)自怜的人是很难反省的,也总是抬高自己:自怜=骄傲。

一个自怜的人是很在意自己的感觉、受伤、利益、自尊的,因此自怜的人会常觉得神和人亏欠他,没有人了解他们。一切都是别人的错,自己却是受害者,没有什么需要自省的。所以刚才我们也读到,当耶利米自怜时,他就控告神,说神叫他失望,神是靠不住的。通常,受害者都要强调自己是对的,到一个地步,他们甚至会认为因人人都不理解他,所以他也不要在乎人的眼光了,自己想怎么活就怎么活,不愿意接受别人善意的劝勉。各位,当我们沉浸在自怜时,其实我们是把自己抬高了。认为我们应得一些祝福、好处、称赞等等却没有得着,所以觉得自己可怜,觉得人或神亏欠了我们。因此,自怜其实是一种骄傲了。我们要小心自怜,因为自怜与自满是硬币的两面了。

 3)自怜会带来属灵的停滞。

一个自怜或自满的人其实在灵里面都是停滞的,一个是觉得自己还可以而在灵里不追求;另一个则是因唉哼而无力前进,只想体贴自己的感觉。

 4)一个自怜的人是很难感恩的。

一个自怜的人因为太关注自己,便会忘了原来神仍掌权,也忘了他们在基督里的身份,所以也不能为着神所允许和带领的事而感恩。这样的人的心眼是被蒙蔽的,以至他们无法察觉到神的恩典。

 2、上帝要自怜的人悔改而自省。

当然,慈爱的上帝是能够体恤人在苦难中的情绪,但神也知道人不能一直停留在自怜与唉哼当中。因为放任自怜太久便会导致人犯罪。就像耶利米,唉哼以至他最终不按着事实乃按着自己的情绪来控告神。但是神还是给耶利米多一次机会,叫他回转,不是讲无价值、自怜的话,乃是说宝贵、配合神真理的话。其实,自怜的反义就是自省了。那我们要反省什么呢?

① 用神的话把自己看得合乎中道。

《罗12:3》不要看自己过于所当看的,要照着神所分给各人信心的大小,看得合乎中道。《路18:14》高抬自己的,必要降卑;自己谦卑的,必要升高。

②  自省至我们能承认我们原本是罪人中的罪魁,本不配得祝福。

《提前1:15》“基督耶稣降世,为要拯救罪人。”这话是可信的,是十分可佩服的。在罪人中我是个罪魁!我们本是罪魁,但耶稣还是怜悯、拯救了我们。所以一切发生在神儿女身上的,都已经是神的恩典了。甚至连我们经历苦难,那苦难也已经比我们本应受的刑罚要减轻很多了。并且神即使叫祂的儿女今生面对苦难,他们在永恒里也会得着永远的幸福。所以神没有欠我们的,我们不能怨天尤人。

③ 当反省到我们可以接受神的智能和公义比我们的高。

像神在《伯40:8-9》你岂可废弃我所拟定的?岂可定我有罪,好显自己为义吗?你有神那样的膀臂吗?你能像他发雷声吗?虽然我们对神的一些带领,特别是苦难不是马上就能明白,但我们不能因自己自怜的情绪就否定神的事实。因神确实有超乎人所能参透的美意,祂的带领绝对无差错。并且若要比谁的苦难比较大,没有一个人承受的痛苦是大过耶稣十字架上的苦难的,所以,没有人可以觉得自己比耶稣更可怜而埋怨神。

亲爱的弟兄姐妹,当我们面对不变的事实而不是我们相对的感觉或处境时,我们要发现我们不是可怜的,乃是蒙主怜悯的。愿圣灵帮助我们对付自怜的灵,而数算我们在基督里实实在在的恩典!

——以上的内容来自林慧君 传道2016年6月22日:自怜与自省

《耶15:15-19;罗12:3;路18:14;提前1:15;伯40:8-9》


2021年2月22日星期一

圣经金句 (中英对照) Bible Verses

虚心的人有福了!因为天国是他们的。5:3 "Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.5:4 哀恸的人有福了!因为他们必得安慰。5:4 "Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.5:6 饥渴慕义的人有福了!因为他们必得饱足。5:6 "Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be satisfied.5:7 怜恤人的人有福了!因为他们必蒙怜恤。5:7 "Blessed are the merciful, for they shall receive mercy.5:8 清心的人有福了!因为他们必得见神。5:8 "Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.(马太福音(Matthew))


神是我们的避难所,是我们的力量,是我们在患难中随时的帮助。46:1 God is our refuge and strength, A very present help in trouble.(诗篇(Psalm))你们要将一切的忧虑卸给神,因为他顾念你们。5:7 casting all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you.(彼得前书(1Peter))37:4 要以耶和华为乐,他就将你心里所求的赐给你。Delight yourself in the LORD; And He will give you the desires of your heart.(诗篇(Psalm))


凡劳苦担重担的人,可以到我这里来,我就使你们得安息。11:28 "Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest.11:29 我心里柔和谦卑,你们当负我的轭,学我的样式,这样,你们心里就必得享安息。11:29 "Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and YOU WILL FIND REST FOR YOUR SOULS.11:30 因为我的轭是容易的,我的担子是轻省的。”11:30 "For My yoke is easy and My burden is light."(马太福音(Matthew))


我们只管坦然无惧地来到施恩的宝座前,为要得怜恤,蒙恩惠,作随时的帮助。Therefore let us draw near with confidence to the throne of grace, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need. (希伯来书(Hebrews)4:16)


应当一无挂虑,只要凡事藉着祷告、祈求和感谢,将你们所要的告诉神。4:6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.4:7 神所赐出人意外的平安,必在基督耶稣里保守你们的心怀意念。4:7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.(腓立比书(Philippians))


你们不要忧愁,因靠耶和华而得的喜乐是你们的力量。8:10  Do not be grieved, for the joy of the LORD is your strength.(尼希米记(Nehemiah)凡等候耶和华,心里寻求他的,耶和华必施恩给他。3:25 The LORD is good to those who wait for Him, To the person who seeks Him.3:26 


人仰望耶和华,静默等候他的救恩,这原是好的。3:26 {It is} good that he waits silently For the salvation of the LORD.(耶利米哀歌(Lamentations))耶和华的眼目,看顾敬畏他的人和仰望他慈爱的人;Behold, the eye of the LORD is on those who fear Him, On those who hope for His lovingkindness,  (诗篇(Psalm)33:18)


你们要尝尝主恩的滋味,便知道他是美善,投靠他的人有福了。34:8 O taste and see that the LORD is good; How blessed is the man who takes refuge in Him!(诗篇(Psalm)34:8)当将你的事交托耶和华,并倚靠他,他就必成全。(诗篇37:4-5 和合本)Commit your way to the LORD ; trust in him, and he will act.(Psalms37:4-5 ESV)


那等候耶和华的,必从新得力;他们必如鹰展翅上腾,他们奔跑却不困倦,行走却不疲乏。Yet those who wait for the LORD Will gain new strength; They will mount up {with} wings like eagles, They will run and not get tired, They will walk and not become weary.(以赛亚书(Isaiah)40:31)


你们亲近神,神就必亲近你们。4:8 Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded.(雅各书(James))你们得救在乎归回安息;你们得力在乎平静安稳(以赛亚书30:15 和合本) If you repented and patiently waited for me, you would be delivered; if you calmly trusted in me you would find strength,(Isaiah30:15 NET)


你们祈求,就给你们;寻找,就寻见;叩门,就给你们开门。7:7 "Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.(马太福音(Matthew))


凡你们祷告祈求的,无论是什么,只要信是得着的,就必得着。 (可 11:24)"Therefore I say to you, all things for which you pray and ask, believe that you have received them, and they will be {granted} you.(Mark11:24)


你们若常在我里面,我的话也常在你们里面,凡你们所愿意的,祈求就给你们成就。15:7 "If you abide in Me, and My words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you.(约翰福音(John))出于神的话,没有一句不带能力的。”1:37  nothing will be impossible with God."(路加福音(Luke))


因为主必不永远丢弃人。3:31 For the Lord will not reject forever,3:32 主虽使人忧愁,还要照他诸般的慈爱发怜悯。3:32 For if He causes grief, Then He will have compassion According to His abundant lovingkindness.3:33 因他并不甘心使人受苦,使人忧愁。3:33 For He does not afflict willingly Or grieve the sons of men.(耶利米哀歌(Lamentations))


因为他没有藐视憎恶受苦的人,也没有向他掩面;那受苦之人呼吁的时候,他就垂听。(诗篇22:24 和合本) For he did not despise or detest the suffering of the oppressed; he did not ignore him; when he cried out to him, he responded.(Psalms22:24 NET)


我靠着那加给我力量的,凡事都能作。(腓立比书4:13)I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.(Philippians4:13)在人是不能,在神却不然,因为神凡事都能。With people it is impossible, but not with God; for all things are possible with God.(马可福音(Mark)10:27)


凡自高的,必降为卑;自卑的,必升为高。Whoever exalts himself shall be humbled; and whoever humbles himself shall be exalted.(马太福音(Matthew)23:12)所以你们要自卑,服在神大能的手下,到了时候,他必叫你们升高。Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you at the proper time (彼得前书(1Peter)5:6)


你们中间若有缺少智慧的,应当求那厚赐与众人、也不斥责人的神,主就必赐给他。1:5 But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him.(雅各书(James))因為神赐給我们,不是胆怯的心,乃是刚強、仁爱、谨守的心 1:7 For God has not given us a spirit of timidity, but of power and love and discipline.(2Timothy 提摩太後書)


不可离弃智慧,智慧就护卫你;要爱他,他就保守你。4:6 "Do not forsake her(wisdom), and she will guard you; Love her, and she will watch over you.高举智慧,他就使你高升;怀抱智慧,他就使你尊荣。4:8 "Prize her, and she will exalt you; She will honor you if you embrace her.他必将华冠加在你头上,把荣冕交给你。”4:9 "She will place on your head a garland of grace; She will present you with a crown of beauty."(箴言(Proverbs)4:6, 8-9)


惟喜爱耶和华的律法,昼夜思想,这人便为有福。1:2 But his delight is in the law of the LORD, And in His law he meditates day and night.(诗篇(Psalm))


我们行事为人是凭着信心,不是凭着眼见。5:7 for we walk by faith, not by sight--(哥林多后书(2Corinthians))我们因基督所以在神面前才有这样的信心。3:4 Such confidence we have through Christ toward God.(哥林多后书(2Corinthians))


凡是真实的,可敬的,公义的,清洁的,可爱的,有美名的;若有什么德行,若有什么称赞,这些事你们都要思念。4:8 Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.(腓立比书(Philippians))


神将他的灵赐给我们,从此就知道我们是住在他里面,他也住在我们里面。4:13 By this we know that we abide in Him and He in us, because He has given us of His Spirit.4:15 凡认耶稣为神儿子的,神就住在他里面,他也住在神里面。4:15 Whoever confesses that Jesus is the Son of God, God abides in him, and he in God.(约翰一书(1John))


神爱我们的心,我们也知道、也信。神就是爱,住在爱里面的,就是住在神里面,神也住在他里面。4:16 We have come to know and have believed the love which God has for us. God is love, and the one who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.4:17 这样,爱在我们里面得以完全,我们就可以在审判的日子坦然无惧;因为他如何,我们在这世上也如何。4:17 By this, love is perfected with us, so that we may have confidence in the day of judgment; because as He is, so also are we in this world.(约翰一书(1John))


爱里没有惧怕;爱既完全,就把惧怕除去,因为惧怕里含着刑罚;惧怕的人在爱里未得完全。4:18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves punishment, and the one who fears is not perfected in love. 我们爱,因为神先爱我们。4:19 We love, because He first loved us.(约翰一书(1John))


我的心哪!你为何忧闷?为何在我里面烦躁?应当仰望神,因我还要称赞他。他是我脸上的光荣(原文作“帮助”),是我的神。Why are you in despair, O my soul? And why have you become disturbed within me? Hope in God, for I shall yet praise Him, The help of my countenance and my God.。(诗篇(Psalm)42:11)


当将你的事交托耶和华,并倚靠他,他就必成全。(诗篇37:5)Commit your way to the LORD, Trust also in Him, and He will do it.(Psalm37:5)不要惧怕,因为我与你同在;不要四处张望,因为我是你的神,我必坚固你,我必帮助你;我必用公义的右手扶持你。(以赛亚书41:10)'Do not fear, for I am with you; Do not anxiously look about you, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, surely I will help you, Surely I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.'(Isaiah41:10)


“你若能信,在信的人,凡事都能。”(马可福音9:23)And Jesus said to him, " 'If You can?' All things are possible to him who believes."(Mark9:23)


你们是属神的,并且胜了他们,因为那在你们里面的,比那在世界上的更大。(约翰一书 4:4)You are from God, little children, and have overcome them; because greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world.(1John4:4)


疲乏的,他赐能力;软弱的,他加力量。(赛 40:29)He gives strength to the weary, And to {him who} lacks might He increases power.(Isaiah40:29)


压伤的芦苇,他不折断;将熄灭的灯火,他不吹灭。他凭真实将公理传开。(以赛亚书42:3)"A bruised reed He will not break And a dimly burning wick He will not extinguish; He will faithfully bring forth justice.(Isaiah42:3)


因为我们的大祭司并不是不能同情我们的软弱,他像我们一样,也曾在各方面受过试探,只是他没有犯罪。(希伯来书4:15)For we do not have a high priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but One who has been tempted in all things as {we are, yet} without sin.(Hebrews4:15)


耶和华亲自在你前头行,与你同在;他决不撇下你,也不离弃你;你不要害怕,也不要惊慌。(申命记31:8)"The LORD is the one who goes ahead of you; He will be with you. He will not fail you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed."(Deuteronomy31:8)


你们为人不要贪爱钱财,要以现在所有的为满足;因为神亲自说过:“我决不撇下你,也不离弃你。”所以我们可以放胆说:“主是帮助我的,我必不惧怕。人能把我怎么样呢?”(希伯来书13:5-6){Make sure that} your character is free from the love of money, being content with what you have; for He Himself has said, "I WILL NEVER DESERT YOU, NOR WILL I EVER FORSAKE YOU," so that we confidently say, "THE LORD IS MY HELPER, I WILL NOT BE AFRAID. WHAT WILL MAN DO TO ME?"(Hebrews13:5-6)


神就是爱,神爱我们,与我们同在,我们可以因此欢喜快乐。只要凭着信心求,一点不疑惑;因为那疑惑的人,就象海中的波浪,被风吹动翻腾。(雅各书1:6)But he must ask in faith without any doubting, for the one who doubts is like the surf of the sea, driven and tossed by the wind.(James1:6)


神能照着运行在我们里面的大能,充充足足地成就一切,超过我们所求所想的。(以弗所书3:20) Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that we ask or think, according to the power that works within us,(Ephesians3:20)


耶和华必为你们争战,你们只管静默,不要作声。 (出 14:14)"The LORD will fight for you while you keep silent."(Exodus14:14)


你若遇见困难,可以放胆求上帝的帮助,因为上帝亲口说:“在患难之日求告我,我必搭救你。”(诗五十:15)Call upon Me in the day of trouble; I shall rescue you, and you will honor Me."(Psalm50:15)


爱是凡事包容,凡事相信,凡事盼望,凡事忍耐。(哥林多前书13:7 )bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.(1Corinthians13:7)在盼望中要喜乐,在患难中要坚忍,祷告要恒切。(罗马书12:12)rejoicing in hope, persevering in tribulation, devoted to prayer,(Romans12:12)


你当默然倚靠耶和华,耐性等候他。不要因那道路通达的和那恶谋成就的心怀不平。(诗 37:7)Rest in the LORD and wait patiently for Him; Do not fret because of him who prospers in his way, Because of the man who carries out wicked schemes.(Psalm37:7)


天离地有多高,他的慈爱向敬畏他的人也有多大。东离西有多远,他使我们的过犯离我们也有多远。103:11 For as high as the heavens are above the earth, So great is His lovingkindness toward those who fear Him. 103:12 As far as the east is from the west, So far has He removed our transgressions from us.(诗篇(Psalm))


我的恩典是够你用的,因为我的能力在人的软弱上显得完全。所以,我更喜欢夸自己的软弱,好让基督的能力临到我的身上。(哥林多后书12:9 )And He has said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness." Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me.(2Corinthians12:9)


你们所遇见的试探, 无非是人所能受的。神是信实的, 必不叫你们受試探過于所能受的。在受試探的時候, 总要給你們开一条出路, 叫你们能忍受得住。(哥林多前书 10:13 )No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it.(1Corinthians10:13)


我们因基督所以在神面前才有这样的信心,因我们行事为人,是凭着信心,不是凭着眼见。(哥林多后书 3:4,5:7)Such confidence we have through Christ toward God.(2Corinthians3:4)for we walk by faith, not by sight(2Corinthians5:7)


忘记背后,努力面前,向着标竿直跑,要得神在基督耶稣里从上面召我来得的奖赏。(腓立比书 3:13-14)Brethren, I do not regard myself as having laid hold of {it} yet; but one thing {I do:} forgetting what {lies} behind and reaching forward to what {lies} ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.(Philippians3:13,14)


不要怕,只要信!就必得救。(路 8:50)"Do not be afraid {any longer;} only believe, and she will be made well."(Luke8:50)


你们当刚强壮胆,不要害怕,也不要畏惧他们,因为耶和华你的神和你同去。他必不撇下你,也不丢弃你。(申 31:6)"Be strong and courageous, do not be afraid or tremble at them, for the LORD your God is the one who goes with you. He will not fail you or forsake you."(Deuteronomy31:6)


“你的信救了你,平平安安地回去吧!你的灾病痊愈了。”(可 5:34)And He said to her, "Daughter, your faith has made you well; go in peace and be healed of your affliction."(Mark5:34)


当用各样的智慧,把基督的道理,丰丰富富的存在心里,用诗章,颂词,灵歌,彼此教导,互相劝戒,心被恩感歌颂神。(西3:16)Let the word of Christ richly dwell within you, with all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another with psalms {and} hymns {and} spiritual songs, singing with thankfulness in your hearts to God.(Colossians3:16)